Why Do People Have Affairs?

I have sex everyday and its good but me and my man still have problems somtimes watsup wht dat is he cheating but we love each other alot!

hi

your are in love with married person....in my opinion...you are hitting axe on your own leg,,,,,As he is already married,,,,he wants to sail on two boat. Its totally difficult to sail on two boat at one time.
Men are always looking for attractive women though they are married...men's mind is devil's mind...

All the best ........its your wish to wait for 5-10yrs or just forget about your relationship.

I am having an affair with a married man.. I am 26 and he is 43.. we have been having this affair for almost 2yrs.. We are deeply inlove eachother.. But.. He has asked me to wait 5 yrs.. I am not an idiot by far.. and I know what I am doing with this man is wrong.. But should I wait the 5yrs..? I need some insight in all of this.. I dont know what to do.. I would love some peoples' opinions on this and please be honest..
I am a very attractive woman and I have never had a problem attracting the opposite sex.. But with him everything feels so right.. Now is something that they know to do?

Interesting - I love this site and would live a happy life if my wife would read it - I cannot convince her of anything. Since 3 months after our marriage she lost interest in sex. She will always participate if I initiate - but I would have a heart-attack if she ever initiated with me. I try to hint, try to suggest, try to get her interested... We went to free church-marriage classes - met for 5 weeks once a week, well the last week's topic was sex - guess what, she had to work late... She stopped using condoms without telling me after about 8 months and now we have a child - so I am in the same boat as my best friend from high school - staying married due to our child.

I am afraid to bring up that I am unhappy with our sex life - she thinks everything is great and I really cannot afford child-support... would love to have her kidnapped and de-programmed (figuratively speaking - just get her to take interest)...

Like one comment above - I joined adultfriendfinder, fling, passion, and other adult dating sites - hoping to find someone who wanted just one other to share some emotion with - sites, unless you pay to join are nothing more than a collection of paid models... at least, never come close to ever cheating.

I love my wife, my family - probably why I will not pay to join those sites - like paying for sex - its wrong.
Some day - some way I hope to convince her to take some action to save our sex life - breath something into our relationship... its suffocating... if not lost already.

P.S. Check out the recent email topic from iVilliage - the best I have read yet - might leave it out for her to find...: http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextechnique/0,,traceycox_cmp76t58-p,00.html

yea, I've just joined a site casualpal.com, there are so many users are searching for discreet affairs. Of course, I'm too. As it for me, I just fell boring in my current relationship, to be honesty, this would be common as we are together for over 4 years. I just want to seek some good friends online and maybe some extra fun. It would be more wonderful, I think.

Wow! Maria! your heart is true through and through- I know exactly what you mean I have men in my life that were and do still flirt around like crazy and this at times could drive me insane but just voice myself and I know in my heart that this man I am with now is really just a big time loser and it's up to me to do something about it.... but still haven't why is beyond me. Fear of been alone might be a big answer to that one, I'm not sure. But thank you foryour beautiful story on faithfullness. I thought that there weren't any of us faithful ones left. When I had a meeting with my ex-husband I told him straight out that there was never another man in my life but him and the man I am with now constantly thinks I am cheating on him and this could be very frustrating at times. Just thinking about it sends me ........know what I mean?

OMG I can generally relate to what she is saying. I have a problem, I was recently dumped by the boyfriend of 5 yrs

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WOW TALK ABOUT LOVE IS BLIND! I FIND MYSELF PONDERING DOES SHE EVEN KNOW WHAT SHE HAS IN YOU?? WOW AN HONEST MAN THAT DOES NOT WANT TO SIMPLY PLAY MACHO SEX GAMES, WOW! ALSO YOU ARE SHOWING HER THAT YOU REALLY CARE ABOUT HER FEELING BECAUSE WE DON'T LIKE TO ADMIT IT TO MUCH BUT US GAL'S ARE REALLY QUITE DELICATE ABOUT THIS TOPIC. WHEN I AM NOT SHOWN ATTENTION I FEEL UNLOVED OR NOT UP TO PAR AS A WOMEN. I HATE TO SAY THIS BUT I WOULD HIRE A PI IF I WERE IN YOUR SHOES BECAUSE FROM A WOMENS POINT OF VIEW I BELIEVE THAT SHE IS 2 TIMING YOU. MAYBE NOT AT A SERIOUS LEVEL , THAT JUST DEPENDS ON HOW LONG YOU HAVE BEEN HAVING COMPLAINTS WITH HER. I DON'T WANT TO SOUND HARSH BUT I'M A GIRL/WOMEN/KID/GAL KIND OF CHICK. MY GUY FRIENDS CALL ME A GIRL WITH PART OF A MAN'S BRAIN OR ONE OF THE BOYS WHAT I'M TRYING TO SAY IS THAT I HAVE AN OPEN NON-PARANOID WAY OF LOOKING AT REALITY! THANK GOODNESS JUST TRYING TO HELP MARCUS TAKE CARE BUDDY