Should women have plastic surgery after childbirth?

Being a stay at home mum is the best thing that a mom can ask for, i never enjoyed this because my daughter grew up "in my absence" i am making plans to get part time work.

I went back to work 3 months after giving birth to my first child a baby girl and I can say that - that time was one of the hardest times of my life. My job was a highly demanding job with short deadlines attached to every assignment and while I was gone on maternity leave the work only stacked up on me. Coming back after 3 months and having undergone such a life-changing experience, I felt like I had to rush through my feelings and emotions and that I had no choice but to ignore the extreme fatigue I felt from the lack of sleep or any kind of rest/relaxation. No one at work understood what I was going through...well meaning colleagues would come by to see me and a picture of my baby but no one knew the heartache I felt to have to spend 8-10 hours away from my bundle that was so little and needed me so much. I'd call home and hear my little one crying for me over the phone when I couldn't even stay on the phone for more than 2 minutes leave alone see her during the day...it was torture just unintended torture. Then there were the days when my little one would be sick and I knew that only I could give her the comfort she wanted but then to have to pull myself out of the house and go to work (I had used all my leave as part of my FMLA for maternity leave) was again, so hard. Thankfully, I'm now a stay at home mother of two little ones. Yes, financially its a lot tighter for us, but in my humble opinion and for me you couldn't offer me enough money to go through that again. There are pros and there are cons, but being there for my children when they really need me......that I feel is placed inside a woman when she becomes a mother and when we're not able to carry out that calling for whatever reason, we're not really satisfied inside....her heart is not fullfilled no matter what.

I am a full time mom of a almost one year old. I also go to school full time and work full time. I think its very hard on the baby and I know for sure its hard on me. Having to watch him cry when I leave or just thinking about all the things I can possibly miss. If I could be a stay at home mom for most of the time I would.

Why are we having this debate? Does it really make a difference whether it is harder being at work or staying at home? We make our choices in our lives, and then deal with the outcomes!

Why all this judgement about working or not! It is time we stopped doing this, and time that the media stopped making such a big fuss about it.

Having been a stay at home mom for 5 years and now a working mother of two for the past two years, I think I can say from experience that it is definately harder to be a working mother. You have two full time jobs, not just one, and you do not get to have no where near as much quality time with your children. So, even though I sympathize with both sides the working moms definately have the harder time!

I've played both roles.....currently being featured as the stay-at-home mom. I had such tremendous guilt missing important milestones during my son's first year, not to mention the ridicuous cost of daycare. I almost couldn't afford to work, more than one entire paycheck was going to his tuition. I would have to agree with the previous post that I find myself stressed about little things in the house now and worry about money a lot, or the lack thereof. There is also something to be said for losing a sense of your own personal identity when you give us a career to stay home. I also worry that I'm giving my son everything he needs as far as development and socialization. I guess there is no easy answer to this one. I'm content at home for the time being, with hopes of finding a happy medium in teh near future.

grass is always greener :)