I have 2 teenaged daughters and they are often remarked upon by others as NOT being spoiled. When they were small, they did have several moments of showing their displeasure when told no. What they learned quickly was that mom and dad stuck to their guns, so to speak. If we said no, we meant it. I did my best the couple of times they had a tantrum in a store (only once or twice each), to stay calm, and then I would look at them and calmly ask if they were done. I then told them to tell the toy good-bye and we would leave the aisle. I also pointed out to them on other days kids who were having a tantrum and asked their opinion of how they looked, then reminded them that THEY looked like that, too! I also have been known to make them leave a party (once) and a sleep-over (once) when they weren't acting as they should in the first case and when they didn't get their chores done they promised to finish in the second place. These were key reminders for them later that mom would make them leave if they didn't act appropriately! It only took a few times to get the message across...and it helped in the long run A LOT.
I HATE parents who don't say NO to their kids. They really hurt them that way. Do you really think when they get a job and their employer doesn't want him to do something he's gonna say "Now sweetie why don't you do this instead?" NO FREAKING WAY!! Parents need to grow a backbone for real.
Good reminder!
The health of a nation is gauged by how its most vulnerable are being treated. How tragic that we are now in a culture where pre-school children are getting expelled from their very first classroom experience three times more than all of k-12 combined! Thank you for speaking to this issue while it is still within our power as parents to turn this titanic around once and for all!
Believe well!
Adelaide Zindler, B.S., Fp The E-School Coach www.FearlessParenting.com
how do i deal with coworkers all in 20's and 30's who grew up spoiled and bring their bratty behavior into the workplace? the problem is that they don't even realize they are whiners and brats because all their friends are their age and so it's normal to them. plus, top management are often the same age of their parents so they too see these spoiled bratty adults the way they see their kids.
My sons would be considered "spoiled" as they are autistic. If waiting for some thing is required for my youngest, and I say "Mommy will do the dishes, then get you your movie, a cookie, ect" he freaks out and screams. I have to get his attention, announce "FIRST my does dishes, THEN your movie, cookie, ect" If I'm busy, and don't use the right words, he doesn't understand. He's 3 1/2. My 6 year old autistic son just has a hard time understanding and asks over and over, or he's more likely to just do stuff himself.
I have a year old and I put him in the crib or play pen with no toys and leave him until he stops crying and calms down then I talk to him and let him out . When he gets to be a teenager he will go to his room, and clean. If we are at the store and he throws a fit because he does not get his way I will walk out of there and leave the cart right where it is and tell him fine we won't get anything then.
